We have often heard people say that couples start resembling each other after living together for a few years. Probably it’s the love and chemistry they share that makes them look-alike. But what makes a couple live together for long is definitely not the similarity in looks. Love, understanding and sex between couples help a relationship to stay for long or break after a while.
Sex definitely plays a bigger role. In a relationship couples are bound to go through a lot of misunderstanding about each other. Also the pre-conceived notions they have about each other creates an invisible line between the two. To sort out such misunderstanding, Ian Kerner, author of several books including “She Comes First,” and sex expert Tracey Cox addressed the most common mistakes both women and men make.
According to their observation usually men and women misunderstand a few common reactions before, during and after sex. Women generally don’t understand why men don’t like to cuddle. They think men can have sex anytime, anyplace. They don’t understand how it is possible for men to differentiate so easily between love and sex.
“Women produce lots of oxytocin, a hormone that stimulates a strong emotional connection. As a result, women are more emotionally integrated when it comes to sex. That’s why casual sex and hookups often backfire for lots of women. Guys produce little to no oxytocin, and can easily have sex without any sense of emotional connection. Its sex with no emotional strings attached.”
Men have their own way of looking at it. Men too, make similar mistakes. Men think that women have low sex desire than men. Most men believe that women need more romance not raunchy sex. Men feel that when they are ready for sex, women are ready too.
However, these assumptions are mere assumption. None of these are true.
From the abstract:
Women and men feel the same in certain situations though one is from mars and the other from Venus. They are still human on earth. Women feel that men don’t like to cuddle and they ready for sex any time any place. But they don’t think deeply about the reason behind it. Men do like to cuddle, however, if they are tired and sex is like a stress buster for them and they feel sleepy after that. At times they are also conscious about their physical appearance (just like women) this makes them to quickly wind up after sex and get going. Not all guys like to have sex every time and anywhere. Once a man reaches into his 20’s the pressure mounts in other areas of his life, like career, and he’s as capable of getting distracted by life’s problems.
Women too are misunderstood several times. Women are more aroused by sensation, men are aroused by the thought of sex. If men really nurture women desire they can turn her into a wild porn star in bed. Women can just be as naughty as men are really. All they need to know is to trigger right buttons to see it. So next time you have any such complaints check your AST –www.asurething.com guide.
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Thursday, August 6, 2009
What men really look for in the Ideal Woman?
Is it beauty or brains what do men look for? All women look for an answer to this question. It's time to look for beyond beauty and brains. Men look for things more specific than beauty and brains. Women believe that ideal woman is size zero, six-foot, high-earning, career oriented woman. But according to a recent survey men look for is an old fashioned woman.
A recent survey conducted on 66000 males of a top dating site revealed that most men look for size-12, independent and one who occasionally wears glasses. The new study reveals that in this age of equality men prefer to earn more than the women they date. 54% men said that they would not date a woman who earns more than $35,500 a year. It was also found that intelligence didn’t score that much but a wacky, entertaining personality and an optimistic outlook was a requirement.
In this survey men showed least concern for weight but had a preference for women with lower than 6ft height. Ideal woman should be 5 feet 8 inches tall. Also she should enjoy regular trips to nightclubs, pubs and restaurant.
From the abstract:
It’s quite evident from the survey that for a man an ideal woman is definitely not a size zero, high-earning career woman. Men would go for a busty size-12 woman than an anorexic one. They become old fashioned when they have to choose a woman to take home. A fit, voluptuous, average height with blue eyes is what they prefer to look at.
Men do not look for a very intelligent person, but the one who can talk wacky. They need an independent women but not the one who earns more than them. (If she does earn more it can hurt their ego- ‘Ouch’.) Well, looks like men are still living in 70’s. Facts are facts, no one can deny them. Of course women can’t ignore it. Many men prefer blondes who don’t know how to cook but should be good at sex. So gear up, stop dieting and if you are the one with less than average height and no blue eyes at least get your curves right and use them at your best.
If you feel that you need a man who accepts a modern woman in this age of equality get yourself to AST- asurething.net. AST is an online dating site for singles- men or women. It is the most updated and modern dating site which gives you complete freedom to make your own choice. It has features like web cam chat, video upload and email that can help you shortlist people you feel are worth dating. AST makes life easier.
So log on to http://www.asurething.net
A recent survey conducted on 66000 males of a top dating site revealed that most men look for size-12, independent and one who occasionally wears glasses. The new study reveals that in this age of equality men prefer to earn more than the women they date. 54% men said that they would not date a woman who earns more than $35,500 a year. It was also found that intelligence didn’t score that much but a wacky, entertaining personality and an optimistic outlook was a requirement.
In this survey men showed least concern for weight but had a preference for women with lower than 6ft height. Ideal woman should be 5 feet 8 inches tall. Also she should enjoy regular trips to nightclubs, pubs and restaurant.
From the abstract:
It’s quite evident from the survey that for a man an ideal woman is definitely not a size zero, high-earning career woman. Men would go for a busty size-12 woman than an anorexic one. They become old fashioned when they have to choose a woman to take home. A fit, voluptuous, average height with blue eyes is what they prefer to look at.
Men do not look for a very intelligent person, but the one who can talk wacky. They need an independent women but not the one who earns more than them. (If she does earn more it can hurt their ego- ‘Ouch’.) Well, looks like men are still living in 70’s. Facts are facts, no one can deny them. Of course women can’t ignore it. Many men prefer blondes who don’t know how to cook but should be good at sex. So gear up, stop dieting and if you are the one with less than average height and no blue eyes at least get your curves right and use them at your best.
If you feel that you need a man who accepts a modern woman in this age of equality get yourself to AST- asurething.net. AST is an online dating site for singles- men or women. It is the most updated and modern dating site which gives you complete freedom to make your own choice. It has features like web cam chat, video upload and email that can help you shortlist people you feel are worth dating. AST makes life easier.
So log on to http://www.asurething.net
Guys love challenges.
“Fun is in chase not in the reward.”This is a famous saying written by a “MAN”. Men are simple to understand in comparison to women. Not only men even women agree to this. Yet there are few things women don’t understand. Not every man really means what he says. There are a lot of men who say that they like older women and hate women who play games. But this is not the whole truth. All men love some mystery and some game.
Though men don’t like bitchy women, they like women who are challenging. They like to get things hard way to show their manliness. Many women complain about how their men don’t pay attention to them anymore. There are some others who are upset about not getting any attention from the guy they are interested in. Some of them end up in an endless chase which fetches them nothing except rejection. But there are few who keep their men on their toes and these are the women who really know how to get a man on their knees. The point is, the more you care the more they run away from you.
Men like new things, unusual things. When things come easily on their plate it becomes less valuable. There a lot of women who do things their men would like. This puts a man to ease and makes him lazy. When a woman works on the relationship, a man just sits back and watches. After a point it becomes a dull, boring movie with no twists and turns. Though this is very relaxing and makes a man feel much secured about you, it’s not very exciting for him. He starts looking out for other things which are more interesting than being with you.
Play a little hard. Anything easy would not gain respect. So turn it into a challenge.
From the abstract:
If you chase a man, the man will run away from you. But if you stop and go away from him, he will coming back running to you.
Men expect their women to work on the relationship while they take a back seat and relax. They try to make things come their way easily. But ultimately when men get what they want effortlessly, they don’t really respect it. Since everything is so easy to get it becomes pretty boring for them.
To make a man chase you make them work harder to get you. It should be a tough battle to win. So throw good challenges for them to conquer and you become their prize. Never show a man that you want him to love, to adore and to commit, make him do that by being ignorant. The less available you are, the more his interest elevates in you. For instance after having sex if your man just rushes up to put on his clothes and get going, you start doing the same. Do this a few times and he will get the message.
Challenging a man does not mean running away from their sight. Just act as if you are going away and then be right back. This will make him feel a bit awkward and also a little lonely for that period when you are not around. Also, when you have a crush on a guy and if he calls you don’t ignore the call. Receive the call, talk to the guy and don’t sound too excited. If he asks you out don’t immediately say yes to it. Instead just ask him if he can call back to confirm some time later. Let him remain inquisitive for your answer.
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Though men don’t like bitchy women, they like women who are challenging. They like to get things hard way to show their manliness. Many women complain about how their men don’t pay attention to them anymore. There are some others who are upset about not getting any attention from the guy they are interested in. Some of them end up in an endless chase which fetches them nothing except rejection. But there are few who keep their men on their toes and these are the women who really know how to get a man on their knees. The point is, the more you care the more they run away from you.
Men like new things, unusual things. When things come easily on their plate it becomes less valuable. There a lot of women who do things their men would like. This puts a man to ease and makes him lazy. When a woman works on the relationship, a man just sits back and watches. After a point it becomes a dull, boring movie with no twists and turns. Though this is very relaxing and makes a man feel much secured about you, it’s not very exciting for him. He starts looking out for other things which are more interesting than being with you.
Play a little hard. Anything easy would not gain respect. So turn it into a challenge.
From the abstract:
If you chase a man, the man will run away from you. But if you stop and go away from him, he will coming back running to you.
Men expect their women to work on the relationship while they take a back seat and relax. They try to make things come their way easily. But ultimately when men get what they want effortlessly, they don’t really respect it. Since everything is so easy to get it becomes pretty boring for them.
To make a man chase you make them work harder to get you. It should be a tough battle to win. So throw good challenges for them to conquer and you become their prize. Never show a man that you want him to love, to adore and to commit, make him do that by being ignorant. The less available you are, the more his interest elevates in you. For instance after having sex if your man just rushes up to put on his clothes and get going, you start doing the same. Do this a few times and he will get the message.
Challenging a man does not mean running away from their sight. Just act as if you are going away and then be right back. This will make him feel a bit awkward and also a little lonely for that period when you are not around. Also, when you have a crush on a guy and if he calls you don’t ignore the call. Receive the call, talk to the guy and don’t sound too excited. If he asks you out don’t immediately say yes to it. Instead just ask him if he can call back to confirm some time later. Let him remain inquisitive for your answer.
To learn about men and to meet men log on to www.asurething.net . Asurething.net is an online dating site which is open to swingers, Bi-sexual, singles and everyone else. If life with freedom is what you need log on
Do Men have more sex partners than women?
Do men really have more sex partners than women, has been a puzzle for a while now. There have been several surveys conducted to find the truth. Most of them have confirmed that men do have more sex partner, though their calculation of partners could be questionable.
One such survey was conducted recently on 2,065 heterosexual non-virgins with a median age in their late 40s. Women reported on average 8.6 lifetime sexual partners. The men claimed 31.9. There was a huge difference. However, Psychologist Norman R. Brown from the University of Michigan felt that many such surveys were flawed.
Mr. Brown and his colleagues asked these participants to rate the truthfulness of their response. He found that 5% of both men and women admitted that they lied in the survey and 10% of them said that their answer was not accurate. Also, women resorted to raw count while calculating their partners. This method results in underestimation. Whereas, men used rough approximation method of calculation, which produces over-estimated results.
It is quite possible that men exaggerate and women down play about their real numbers.
From the abstract:
Well, with the kind of open or liberal society we stay in, the sex partner numbers should be equal at least. It is evident from the survey that a man has more sexual partners than a woman. However, the question arises about the calculation. Since desire for multiple partners is greater in men than in women, they both use different ways of calculating. They adjust their answer to accommodate what they want to portray.
For instance there are so many women and men who join AST- www.Asurething.net and share equal number of partners but none of them have an accurate count of it. There is no difference between the number of sex partners men or women have. It’s very important to look at the two sides of the same coin. It’s only human to give an answer as desired whether exaggerated or understated.
It’s understood that people end up having more than 2 partners due to choice or chance. With a liberal society we live in AST provides a free space for men and women to mingle. Asurething.net is an online dating site which is open to swingers, Bi-sexual, singles and everyone else. If life with freedom is what you need log on to http://www.asurething.net/
Women need more sex
Women are known for their unpredictable mindset. Yet they are pretty fragile no matter how tough they look. There have been several studies conducted to understand the reasons behind their behavior and reaction patterns. Most importantly these studies are conducted to understand why some women act sex-crazed where as others loose their sex drives in mid 30’s. There are lot of reasons considered to understand their reactions and mental status. One of the reasons is depression that most women go through silently.
In a recent survey conducted on women, presented at an international mental health conference concluded that, females who suffer from mild to moderate depression have a third more sexual activity than those who are not.
“They also have more sexually liberated attitudes, a bigger variety of sexual experiences and, if single, they are more likely to partake in casual sex”, said Dr Sabura Allen, a clinical psychologist at Monash University. Sexual experiences of 107 depressed and non-depressed women, who were in relationships, were closely studied.
A depressed state of mind can provoke suicidal tendencies, or make a person insecure about relationships, financial stability, future plans, etc. But more specifically their relationship with their partner does get affected. One may observe sudden emotional break outs or sudden increase in the frequency of sex during this phase. It does become difficult for a partner to handle this emotional trauma they go through.
It is true that all women want to be loved. They feel secured by being close to their partner or by having sex with their partner. Depression could be due to the hormonal changes as well as changes in their existing relationship with their partner. This adversely affects her mental state. Due to this they try to take control of the situation by having sex more often than before. This helps them comfort or balm their insecurity that arises due to any reason. There are several studies going on to understand the root cause of depression in a woman.
From the abstract:
Today woman have become more sexually liberated than before. There has always been a debate between which sex needs more “sex” – is it a woman or a man. However, recent studies show that women need more sex than men. Though single men have a higher frequency of sex in a week and single woman have a lower frequency.
When a woman feels depressed she gets more insecure about her relationship with her partner and feels that her partner might stop caring about her after certain period of time. Women seek for sexual intimacy to feel more secure about their partner and relationship. So if you do feel that your woman is having sex with you more frequently than before, do talk her. AST- www.asurething.net is an online dating website which advices you about sex and more.
It is very easy to love a woman but to make her feel secured that you are going to be there for her, forever, is quite a task. The best way to keep the sparks going on is to show your love and commitment to them. Small gestures to show love can do wonders to a relationship. This will help a woman to feel more secured with you and be more happy living with you.
To understand more about woman and to meet new people log on to www.asurething.net
In a recent survey conducted on women, presented at an international mental health conference concluded that, females who suffer from mild to moderate depression have a third more sexual activity than those who are not.
“They also have more sexually liberated attitudes, a bigger variety of sexual experiences and, if single, they are more likely to partake in casual sex”, said Dr Sabura Allen, a clinical psychologist at Monash University. Sexual experiences of 107 depressed and non-depressed women, who were in relationships, were closely studied.
A depressed state of mind can provoke suicidal tendencies, or make a person insecure about relationships, financial stability, future plans, etc. But more specifically their relationship with their partner does get affected. One may observe sudden emotional break outs or sudden increase in the frequency of sex during this phase. It does become difficult for a partner to handle this emotional trauma they go through.
It is true that all women want to be loved. They feel secured by being close to their partner or by having sex with their partner. Depression could be due to the hormonal changes as well as changes in their existing relationship with their partner. This adversely affects her mental state. Due to this they try to take control of the situation by having sex more often than before. This helps them comfort or balm their insecurity that arises due to any reason. There are several studies going on to understand the root cause of depression in a woman.
From the abstract:
Today woman have become more sexually liberated than before. There has always been a debate between which sex needs more “sex” – is it a woman or a man. However, recent studies show that women need more sex than men. Though single men have a higher frequency of sex in a week and single woman have a lower frequency.
When a woman feels depressed she gets more insecure about her relationship with her partner and feels that her partner might stop caring about her after certain period of time. Women seek for sexual intimacy to feel more secure about their partner and relationship. So if you do feel that your woman is having sex with you more frequently than before, do talk her. AST- www.asurething.net is an online dating website which advices you about sex and more.
It is very easy to love a woman but to make her feel secured that you are going to be there for her, forever, is quite a task. The best way to keep the sparks going on is to show your love and commitment to them. Small gestures to show love can do wonders to a relationship. This will help a woman to feel more secured with you and be more happy living with you.
To understand more about woman and to meet new people log on to www.asurething.net
More women pleasuring themselves here
There are so many options and positions in sex today that pleasure up our sexual urges. Masturbation is triggered when you need to just fulfill a physical urge. A recent survey conducted on 1000 UK woman aged 18-30 gave out the most fascinating results about woman doing it solo.
92% women admitted to touching themselves this year, compares with only 74 per cent in 1979 and 62 per cent in 1953. "One of the best things about pleasing ourselves is that it gives us more confidence when we're intimate with our partners - we communicate better and feel more satisfied which is good for everyone.” (Leading woman's coach, Jessica Chiver)
The poll revealed that 9 out of ten women regularly take time out for some solo action. 2/3rd of women in the survey said that they did it at least thrice a week. Some even did four times a week.
This is the highest number ever.
From the abstract:
Women’s attitudes and practices have changed over the decade. The survey proves a marked liberation women have achieved in this society to be vocal about their sex lives. Touching, feeling and pleasuring up are a part of womanhood. Looks like women have given a new dimension to masturbation.
It is fun for a woman to do it solo as there no limitation to the number of orgasms she can achieve through it. They do not have to wait for a man to do the honor when they are good at it. No seduction, no premature ejaculation, no tantrums to go through. It’s much more relaxing and fun filled action. A personal time most woman wait to have.
To watch a woman do the act is so thrilling. It’s quite a turn on for most men! So next time you are on bed and don’t feel turned on with your women next to you, ask her to do it or tell her you want to watch her do it. If she is ready to do it in front of you, it’s going to be a feast for your eyes. To get to know women better and to watch them have fun, log on to http://www.asurething.net
10 things not to say to a guy after sex
All that dirty talking during the sex is such a big turn on. When the heat is on in the bedroom, full of sex, full of excitement it’s so much fun. And once it’s done and Aah moment is over the couples carry on with their lives. No one really thinks of planning things after sex. Sometimes ‘the after sex scene’ in the bedroom could just put your partner in a bizarre mood.
In a recent survey it was found that 48% of respondents enjoy talking during sex. But what happens after sex? Well sometimes, since you are tired you just relax under the sheet or start your normal conversation with your partners. But some discuss about their sex time they just had. While talking women do tend to set off sex air completely from their room. There are something’s that women should not ask or say after sex. “That was nice.” “What do you want to do now?” “Why’d you stop?” “Are you OK?” “Can you wash yourself?” “Man, I’m starving.” “Want to try again?” “Do you mind if I finish myself?” “Everyone has an off night.” “It happens to lots of guys.”These are few phrases that women must avoid completely.
It’s completely fine if you retire under the sheets and rest after this fun filled action. There are other ways one can react after sex to keep the mood ignited for the second time. Sex is not a game or an event or favor to satisfy a woman or man. It is much more than that.
From the abstract:
Dirty talking during sex and after sex is so much fun. At times sex can be the most memorable experience with the partner if one refrain’s to comment on it otherwise. Both the partners should avoid general comments like that was nice or are you okay. It just gives an impression that your sex was a chore like watching a movie or a ride. Also it’s fun to watch a woman do herself provided she does not make it obvious that she was not satisfied.
Doing something romantic together after sex is a much better way of reassuring your partner that you enjoyed it. For instance, having a shower together could be so exciting. Just cuddling each other on the bed and resting could be so relaxing. There are so many things one can do instead of talking.
Why talk about what to do next when you can initiate the mood for next session. To find woman or a man it is not a difficult task. One can easily find them on www.asurething.net. To learn more about sex and behavior log on to http://www.asurething.net.
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